That's a man's job....

One of the questions on the 100-question pre-marital "test" that Adam and I had to take was about the roles of a man and a woman in a relationship. We had to put an "M" next to the responsibilities that the man should take on in the marriage and an "F" next to the role that the woman should take on. You could also put a "B" for both.

I don't consider myself a very liberal woman, in fact, I didn't really enjoy those women's studies classes that I took in college that bashed women who gave up careers to stay home with children and made divorce seem like it was an Ok thing to do. Of course I want to be successful and have a good job, but I also want to be a good wife and Mom (someday). Sure, there are some "M" and "F" jobs in a marriage, but there are also alot of "B" jobs.

Anyway, since we filled out this "test" 3 months ago, Adam and I have joked about that question. For instance we both put "car maintenance" as being a man's responsibility, so when the XM radio in my car didn't work, I said to Adam, "you need to fix it...car maintenance is a man's job".

Last night, at 10:00 P.M., Adam was sitting out in my car in the cold, tinkering around with the circuit box on the dashboard while attempting to hold a flashlight and talk to the XM radio representative on speaker phone. I looked out there, saw his legs hanging out of the car and I felt bad that he was out there making a valient attempt at fixing it after he had been at work all day.

I felt so bad, in fact, that I put on my jacket, grabbed the dog, and went outside to help. So, the car maitenance job became a "B", even if all I did was hold the flashlight.