Moving Out

Thursday, June 28, 2012

The past few months have been bittersweet as my Grandmother prepared to move out of her house and into a retirement community. For me, 825 Green Lane is the only house I have been visiting my entire life. Growing up, we would come from wherever we might have been living at that particular time and as soon as you walked in, the place just felt like a second home. It’s also the last place I saw my Grandfather the way I remember him.

When we were little, we would spend hours swinging on the tire swing that hung from the huge tree in the backyard, begging a parent, aunt or uncle to push us higher or spin us faster. Sometimes, someone would set up croquet and we would all run around playing. It was the perfect yard for playing soccer, picking vegetables in Grandma’s garden and catching fireflies.

Inside, the entire family would get together for Thanksgiving and everyone would make a huge circle around the kitchen and say a prayer before dinner. You could always count on Grandma to sit down and play Dominoes, Scrabble, Rummikub, or cards around the kitchen table. In the living room, my sisters and I spent hours watching our favorite movie, Seven Brides for Seven Brothers….I’m sure today the three of us could probably recite the words to most of the songs. The baby grand piano always sat in the corner, waiting for someone to sit and play hymns or Christmas carols. Upstairs, the little plaid room had two matching twin beds for my sister, Sally and me.

When I left the house on Saturday for the last time, I had so many mixed emotions, but I am really happy that Grandma is going to be living in such a nice place with so many opportunities to do things and meet new people. I know that 825 Green Lane is just a house, it’s the people that were inside of it and the memories that were made there that made it so special.


Tuesday, June 5, 2012

A couple months ago, Adam called me from the airport when he was on his way home from a work trip in Austin, Texas. His boss, he informed me, was planning on leaving the current company and starting his own business. He asked Adam to join him as one of its founders. As he told me about this new opportunity, I couldn’t help but think that we had just gotten settled in Newark with our house the way we wanted it and the bank account back to where it had been before we wrote the check for the down payment. We were enjoying life, settled into jobs and done with grad school. I was happy in the routine daily life. Why does it always seem that when you’re just getting comfortable, something changes?

Adam and I discussed this opportunity for hours, researching what it would mean for him and for us as a couple and a future family. While he was still happy in his job, he wasn’t sure that it was leading him where he wanted to go. From the beginning, I was worried about stability of this new position, as well as the fact that there is a chance this idea could fail. I was focused on the negative aspects of the opportunity, while he was dreaming about all of the future possibilities.

A few weeks ago, my opinion started to shift when I saw how excited Adam was about this new adventure. I realized that I have to trust his judgment and know that he would never purposely do anything to jeopardize our stability. He deserves to be challenged in his career. So, after five years in his current company, he is switching gears and becoming one of the founders of a new start-up.

We know it is going to be a crazy year, but we’re looking forward to all of the opportunities ahead.